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Chambray Shirtdress & Camo Jeans: Held Accountable

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I keep a list of potential blog story topics stored in my phone. Whenever something pops into my head, I add it to the list for future reference so I always have some topics ready when I’m at a loss. More often than not though, I write spontaneously like I did with today’s post…

THE STORY

…I’ll see, hear or read something interesting; or maybe something happens that amuses, irritates or interests me…and so I write. Such was the case with this post.

Yesterday I took the day off work to take my husband to an appointment with a spinal specialist. He was badly injured at work back in May and I wrote about it shortly thereafter. He still isn’t back to work and is unable to do even the most basic of activities. It’s rare that we go anywhere because he is in constant pain and walking, even with his cane and brace, only exacerbates it. Physical therapy made absolutely no improvement and when the orthopedic surgeon was at a loss he sent us to the spinal specialist whom we saw yesterday.

I was cautiously optimistic in that I hoped that maybe this would be the doctor who found out why the issues persist…maybe this would be the appointment that would get us at least on the road back to some semblance of a normal life. All I can say is that it’s a damn good thing I was cautious about my optimism because otherwise I would have left the doctor’s office sorely disappointed. Instead I left highly pissed off.

I understand that we unfortunately live in an age where a whole lot of people are looking to take the easy way out and milk the system, whether it be through worker’s compensation, disability or public assistance. I get that and I know firsthand that it is reality. Sometimes it is overlooked though that there are a whole lot of other people out there who are legitimately injured, legitimately in pain and who would more than anything, love to resume a normal life, including going back to work. I feel like it goes without saying that my husband is part of the latter group.

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Unfortunately the doctor that we saw yesterday apparently paints everyone with the same biased brush. He looked at my husband’s records and previous tests, did two x-rays and gave him nothing more than a cursory once over that was supposed to pass as an examination. He offhandedly ordered an MRI like some sort of consolation prize.

I believe that he saw that it was a worker’s compensation case, and before him was a patient who by all rights should have by now shown improvement yet hasn’t, and thus took it upon himself to pass judgement. He looked at us both with eyes that said we were less than…that we were liars; it’s been a lot of years since I felt so dismissed by another human being.

I left there feeling angry, frustrated and close to tears. Something is wrong with my husband, very wrong. Just because whatever it is isn’t visible, just because there are no clear medical answers that does not make it any less real; that does not mean that it’s make believe. For God’s sake, we can’t even sleep in the same bed together because it causes him too much pain…who in their right mind would make that up?

We met our son and his fiancé for coffee after the appointment and my boy asked why I kept my mouth shut because that is so unlike me to do so. Do you know what? I really didn’t have an answer for him…manners? respect? Both of those ring hollow though in light of the fact the man treated my husband so poorly. Honestly, after some self-psychoanalyzing, I think that the doctor’s behavior was unexpected, and it took me to a place in my head where the scared 12 year old girl still lives. Back then I was treated like that on the daily because I came from a poor family that lived in the trailer park. I never used to defend myself because I was intimidated, and for a hot second in that doctor’s office I forgot who I really am today.

This isn’t a “woe is me” thing; I just know how my brain works that’s all. The good doctor sneak attacked and knocked me off my game. Rest assured, when we go back for the follow up after the MRI…the doctor will be schooled. No one has the right to treat another human being as “less than”. No one has the right to simply dismiss another because they are looking at them through their own jaded eyes. I do not care how many degrees that a person has, nor do I care how many people they have seen who were indeed scamming the system. Everyone deserves to be treated with dignity and respect until if/when they prove that they are undeserving. Especially when people are coming to you for help…for answers….for hope. And if one chooses to treat me and mine otherwise? Then one will be held accountable.

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THE OUTFIT

I’ve had this particular chambray shirtdress from Old Navy for years…and I’ve worn it maybe twice. Try as I might, I just can’t make myself love shirtdresses. I’m not sure why, but for some reason they are just not my thang. Instead of donating it though, I decided to style it as a duster instead and I think it worked out pretty well if I do say so myself.

I styled it over my camo skinny jeans and a white tee for work. It made for the perfect butt coverage, because…you know, dress code. I figured I wouldn’t make for the best role model if I was sitting in the principal’s office with all of the other inappropriately clad children.

Adding the shirtdress/duster is a perfect example of how just one little tweak to an outfit (or the addition of a third piece) can make all the difference. The tee, jeans and ankle boots would have been cute enough on their own, albeit a bit basic. But throw on the shirtdress, and voila…an outfit that’s both interesting and work appropriate.


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THE TIP

When looking at pieces in your closet, or when shopping, try thinking outside of the box. Unloved pieces might get a second chance at life or perhaps a piece that you love, but for some reason doesn’t quite work could possibly be worn in an entirely different way…

  • A beautiful scarf can be artfully wrapped as a top or skirt
  • On the other hand a lightweight chiffon vest or top can be used as a scarf like I did with this look.
  • Style a dress over jeans or skinny pants like you would a top.
  • Style a shirtdress as a duster or vice versa like I when I wore my plaid duster as a dress.
  • Try tying a shirt around your hips/waist for definition and visual interest instead of wearing it as a shirt.

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THE LINK UPS

Check out the weekly link ups I participate in for even more fashion and style ideas…

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Shirtdress: Similar;  Jeans: Similar;  Tee: Nordstrom (Similar);  Boots: Aldo (Similar)

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jodie filogomo
jodie filogomo
5 years ago

That’s just awful Debbie. Is there any way to see a different doctor. I always say there are bad people in every profession…but there are good ones too. Did you ever read Cancer Schmancer?? It’s by the lady that played The Nanny and her having to see 7 or 8 different doctors before they discovered her cancer. Even in Hollywood, not every doctor knows everything. But her take away was to keep at it because you know your body the best and need to be your own advocate.
XOXO
Jodie

Nancy
5 years ago

Can I come with you to that next appointment? I know doctors like that! They brought me to tears 6years ago and made me feel so lost. I hope you can make clear to this doctor that he is stuck in his job and that humans are individuals and not a number on their computer! Good luck!

Bettye Rainwater
5 years ago

Oh. Debbie, i am so sorry you had such a bad experience with the doctor – they can truly be a**es. And I’m sorry to hear your husband (and your family) is still struggling so :-(. That’s JUST the time you need someone in your corner.

xoxo Bettye

Shelbee on the Edge
5 years ago

Yes, indeed, you must school this man! I feel you though when you get knocked off your game a bit and you don’t respond as you normally would. Then you get mad at yourself for just sitting there and taking it. But, like you said, you will have a follow up visit that is sure to knock him off his arrogant holier than thou game. I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this at all and I am sending lots of positive healing energy to your husband. Great outfit, by the way! One that I may… Read more »

mireille
5 years ago

Oh, another outfit to copy! Don’t have a chambray shirt dress but I do have a chambray shirt! Will try this next week!!
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Kimberly Malkiewicz
5 years ago

I’m sorry for your bad experience. I understand that sometimes we can be so taken aback that we are speechless at the time. Also, some people just can’t be schooled. I *hate* that we all have to bear the consequences of dishonest people. I’m so used to seeing you in boyfriend style jeans, that these are a bit of a surprise.

Ashley
5 years ago

I’m so sorry to hear about your husband’s continued injury issues and WOW that doctor was totally out of line! So awful to make you guys feel that way- didn’t they take an oath to do no harm? How is making another human being feel like a liar when they are supposed to be able to trust their doctor doing NO harm? Insane. Sending you guys all the good vibes and cannot wait for your follow-up appointment so you can tear the “good” doc a new one. 😉

-Ashley
Le Stylo Rouge

Geniussr
Geniussr
5 years ago

oh, sorry to hear about your bad experience at doctor’s office…Hope everything settles down soon for you and your family… on the other hand I like that casual outfit you are wearing… you look cool and carry it really well… thanks for your helpful tips and inspiration…❤️

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Andrea Nine
5 years ago

I just love the longer chambray duster shirt. CAMO CUTIE!! So happy you linked up with the STYLE SIX!!

Kellyann Rohr
5 years ago

That just stinks that the doctor treated your husband so poorly. But the worst part is that your husband has been suffering for so long. I pray he gets some answers and some relief. Soon.
I love what you did with the shirt dress. I don’t wear that style particularly well but styling it this way is like having a fabulous chambray kimono!!!
xo,
Kellyann

Amy Christensen
5 years ago

Debbie, I am so sorry that your hubby is still in so much pain. Back pain, or any type of chronic pain is so wearing on a person and on his caregivers as well. I hope that the MRI will give some conclusive evidence of what the problem is and that steps will be taken to improve things. I’ll be praying for you both. Such a hard situation. – Amy
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Leslie Susan Clingan
5 years ago

I am thinking maybe you have found a way to get more wear out of this shirt dress. It works so well as a duster. Perfect wrap for this time of year. Really like it with the camo, too. So sorry about your husband’s back issues, the doctor’s disinterest. My husband is having back and hip issues, too. We have seen doctors, pain management specialists, he has had an ablation that burned the nerves in his back that are exposed between the vertebra. That brought a bit of relief for about 3-4 months but the pain is back again. I… Read more »

jess jannenga
5 years ago

Debbie. I can understand. I have gone to doctors in the early stages of EDS who acted as if I wasn’t a person, show no concern, and others who thought I was “malingering”. Some docgtors have NO bedside manner or just don’t take the time. I am sorry you and your hubby had to go through that. Can you see another doc or perhaps just go in with questions to this doctor. I always write in a notebook. Anyhow, I hope you can get answers and someone who is more professional and kind. Re- outfit, i love the longer shirt… Read more »

Jacqui Berry
5 years ago

Do hope things get sorted for you – how terrible for you! Sending you all good wishes, and thanks for adding to the linkup and sharing your story. Jacqui Mummabstylish

Emma Peach
5 years ago

I’m sorry you and your husband had such a bad experience with the doctor. Sometimes we get caught off guard and then think of what we’d like to have said afterwards. I hope that you get some answers next time and that your husband’s health improves.

Emma xxx
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