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Floral Maxi Dress & Moto Jacket: Choose Your Words Carefully

eShakti floral maxi dress, moto jacket & combat boots.

Bullying is one of those words that has gained a lot of traction in the last several years…

THE STORY

…And with good reason; it’s become a buzzword and a rallying cry. Oftentimes it is legitimately used. Bullying is real. Bullying does happen. And it isn’t just a childhood danger, it unfortunately happens in the adult world with startling regularity. Tragically, the current climate in our country has made it almost commonplace.

On the flip side, the word “bullying” has become so mainstream that it is just as often used improperly. It’s used as a weapon. It’s used as an excuse. It’s used when one doesn’t get their way. The actual definition of bullying is:

“unwanted, aggressive behavior that involves a real or perceived power imbalance…the behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated over time…bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose”

Most of us know bullying when we see it, and the definition is pretty cut and dried. Even so, the word is often used to describe behavior or situations that are in no way shape or form bullying. For example, not that long ago my daughter finished up her work in one of her classes and a classmate asked if she could “borrow” my daughter’s paper. Translation…she wanted to copy the work. My daughter politely (and no, I’m not delusional…my daughter is always polite and kind to people) responded no and turned in her work. The classmate burst into tears and went to the office to complain that my daughter was mean and was “bullying” her…because she refused to allow someone to cheat off of her work she was accused of being a bully. Nothing came of it because it was complete and utter nonsense, but do you see what I’m getting at?

I once had a student tell me she was being bullied because another student wouldn’t lend her a pencil. I’m sorry friends, but if someone doesn’t want to lend you a writing utensil or if they would like to sit with someone else at lunch, or they won’t let you copy their work, that does not constitute bullying.

The real danger here lies in the abuse of powerful words like bullying. It takes away some of its power, some of its legitimacy. I have seen victims of real legitimate vicious bullying; the tears, the broken hearts, the devastation. To take a word that gives a name to actions that cause real, raw and lasting damage to the psyche of another human being in order cover up one’s own inadequacies or to play the victim is unconscionable. In the world in which we currently live, it’s more important than ever to choose our words carefully.

THE OUTFIT

I love nothing better than to pair something girly with pieces that are badass-y and/or tomboyish. Hence the pairing of this beautiful floaty floral maxi dress gifted to me by eShakti with my combat boots and moto jacket. It’s the best of both worlds.

The dress came with the studded ribbon belt that I’m wearing with it. I originally had my western double buckle belt on (and it looked pretty cool as well), but ultimately went with the ribbon belt because it was fun. I tied it so that it hung down the back instead of the front for a slightly different look. Usually I don’t care for the belts that come with dresses or pants, but this one is pretty fabulous. I think it will also look cute with one of my many pairs of distressed jeans.

The truly great thing about eShakti is that you can order their pieces custom made to fit your measurements like I did with this dress. Normally I can’t buy a maxi dress off the rack because they aren’t made for elfin-sized girls like myself. Having the dress custom made took care of that issue as the dress hits exactly where I wanted it to. Since I went with shorter sleeves it will work all the way into Spring and early Summer, and I can layer it over a turtleneck or under a sweater during the Winter.

THE TIP

Consider trying custom made clothing, especially if you’re a difficult size i.e. petite, tall, busty, etc. Having a piece made specifically for your body type can make all the difference.

THE LINK UPS

Check out the weekly link ups I participate in for even more fashion and style ideas…

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Dress: c/o eShakti (Similar);  Jacket: Blank NYC (Similar);  Boots: Nordstrom

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jodie filogomo
jodie filogomo
6 years ago

I will tell you that words are amazing. Sometimes I scoff that a word or two could really make a difference. And yet they can. Although I will say that most times is not just the words themselves, but how they are presented and that whole “tone” thing. When I was working, we tried hard to get everyone to stop saying “just”. You know….”it’s just a cleaning” And so it’s true that watching our words is SO important. Always love your dichotomy in your outfits. Those boots?? Totally fabulous with the dress. And custom made clothes? I’m so spoiled with… Read more »

Kellyann Rohr
6 years ago

There’s that covered bridge I love! We have pictures at that bridge from like 16 years ago, it’s so pretty. So are you, love that outfit and the colors in the dress are perfect on you! One of the things that drove me crazy at school over the last few years was the abuse of the word bullying. Every time someone accused someone else we had to launch a full on investigation with all kinds of paperwork. It was ridiculous. I did my best to teach kids that sometimes someone has a “mean moment” maybe they snap at you or… Read more »

Nancy Baten
6 years ago

What a beautiful photos! Contrasts in outfits are the best, love the cool with the feminine. Words…..ah. The same goes for whatsapp. Someone who receives a message can ,,hear,, it totally different then the writer meant to.

Susan Marinelli
Susan Marinelli
6 years ago

Words ARE amazing (to quote Jodie)
It’s a good thing I love them, and know how to use them.
Bullying is currently over used, but that is better than not mentioning it.

Cute outfit Debbie. I’ve been checking out eShakti, so it’s good to have your approval

Maria | passion fruit, paws and peonies
6 years ago

These might be the most gorgeous photos of you yet Debbie – the Autumn light really suits you! I’m so pleased you addressed the bullying word – it’s banded around these days among with other threats! There is a new culture where someone decent can be silenced or their ‘normal’ behaviours can be stopped by threats of accusations. It’s bizarre – and resembles ‘you’re a witch’ threats of the past xx
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Cindy Scurry
6 years ago

Beautiful outfit, beautiful pictures! It’s just mind numbing/unbelievable/intolerable that our President is such a bully and sets such a bad example.

Theresa Campbell
6 years ago

When I read a story like this, how a child uses the word bullying as a weapon when they don’t get their own way, I can’t help but wonder what kind of parenting failure occurred to encourage such manipulative behavior.

Love the romantic look of the dress combined with the toughness of the moto jacket. I wondered about Eshakti, if their custom made clothes were good quality and fit correctly. I’m glad I saw your feedback on them.

Your photos are stunning. The covered bridge was a perfect venue for your shoot.

Theresa

Nicole at High Latitude Style
6 years ago

You look stunning in this dress. The photos are great. The covered wood bridge is a perfect background for this romantic, edgy look. Thanks for sharing it at the Top of the World Style linkup party.

Robin LaMonte
6 years ago

Debbie, I finally caught my breath today and can read your blog posts. I knew that you would have a wonderful blog post when you mentioned “Bullying” as your topic. Yes it’s an overused term and children do not know how to use it properly but adults do. I have never experienced bullying in my life until recently and I am taken aback how mean-spirited adults can be. What amazes me as to how easily someone can threaten another person and think they are justified in doing so. You are right, we have become a society that accepts rudeness and… Read more »

Emma Peach
6 years ago

My daughter often tells me about a situation that has occurred at school and asks me if it’s bullying. I try to impress upon her how important it is not to throw that word around lightly. The flip side is though, the girl that is often mean to her accuses Isobel of being a bully when she stands up for herself. Parenting is hard! I love your dress, it looks amazing with the moto jacket and boots!

Emma xxx
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Ruth
6 years ago

I do think that the word has been taken out of context in some ways. I think parenting can be tough to navigate and because of everything that is coming to light with bullying things get muddled up.
I think you look gorgeous in this dress! I love your fall foliage!

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