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How To Break Rules The Right Way + Kimono & Cut-offs

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I used to be, for the most part, a rule follower in every aspect of my life…

THE STORY

…I blindly followed basically all of the rules that those around me or perhaps society as a whole had put into place. I never questioned them, and if I did, it was only silently in my head. Because that’s what good girls did…and everybody wants to be a good girl, right?

Rules typically serve one of two purposes: 1.) To protect you from something not good for you, or 2.) To nudge you towards something beneficial for you. We need to keep in mind however, that rules are typically made by those who are in some way in power; and those who have power over us do not always have our best interests at heart. Rules made in this vein are meant to control or limit us in some way, and that obviously, is no bueno.

As I got older (and wiser), I realized that so many of those “rules” were complete and utter bullsh*t. I’m not talking about rules that exist for the greater good. For example, using basic manners in social situations. Greeting people, saying “please” and “thank you” and holding the door for the person behind you are quite simply rules that we all should follow to make the world a more pleasant place.

“I am referring to rules that are meant to hold us back or silence our voices in some way; these are the rules that need to be broken because the only way to make change happen is to shatter the status quo.”

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Once I became aware of the bullsh*t rules I became somewhat of a rebel…a rule breaker…a disrupter. It started with how I dressed and as my confidence grew so did my inability to follow rules, both spoken and unspoken, just because I was “expected” to follow them. I began to question things…the why’s, the how’s, the what if’s. Being a rule breaker isn’t easy, it takes courage. If I’m being completely honest there are still unspoken rules in my world that need to be addressed. Some rules are more challenging to break free from than others, but I know that in order to live my truth, in time, these rules too will have to be broken.

“By all means, break the rules, and break them beautifully, deliberately, and well.” —Robert Bringhurst

One important thing to keep in mind though is this…it makes absolutely no sense to break rules just for the sake of breaking them. There’s a fine line between being a rebel and a troublemaker.

There are two guiding principles to consider before breaking a rule

First, consider the outcome. The outcome is always more important than the rule itself. How will it affect you? How will it affect others? Are the consequences worth breaking the rule? If it’s worth it and no harm will come to you or others, then shatter that damn rule.

Second, do not compromise your values. If you choose to break (or not) a rule, will you be able to sleep at night? If the outcome aligns with your values and core beliefs then you know what you need to do.

Tell me…are you a rule breaker or a rule follower?

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THE OUTFIT

In my humble opinion, so called “fashion rules” are completely ridiculous. Yes, there are certain situation-specific rules we need to follow (think work, funeral, certain social events, etc). Generally speaking though, fashion rules are meant in some way to stifle our individuality, the expression of our true selves…and most often they target women…more specifically, women who have passed some arbitrary birthday.

With that in mind, when my good friend Bettye chose “Rules Are Made To Be Broken” as our June Ageless Style Link Up theme I was like, “hell yeah”! I decided that I was going to break as many fashion rules as possible in one outfit without going over the top. Let’s dissect my outfit, shall we?

  1. The shorts. The shorts actually break a few rules. First of all, they’re shredded (which by now we all know is my preferred way of wearing denim). For whatever reason, some people seem to feel that ripped denim is best left to the kids. Why? No clue. If ripped denim isn’t something you like, that’s cool. However, it is something I love and there is no good reason why I shouldn’t wear it. Second, they are shorter than a woman over a certain age should be wearing. Screw that…if I want to show off my dimply legs that’s my business. I do typically wear longer shorts, but I like ’em short too and that’s that.
  2. The top. A strappy silky cami that looks like it could be underwear? Yes, please. I love silk cami’s and have quite a few. Visible bra straps? Again, yes. I have a ton of lacy bralettes that I wear with the express purpose of showing off the straps. None of them really worked with this so I went with a basic black bra because I wanted the contrast between the red and black. And red-haired girls (or pink-haired girls) shouldn’t wear red? Obviously not an issue.
  3. The sandals. Heels with shorts? Oh, the scandal! Do I wear heels with shorts on a daily basis? No…I’m definitely a Birks girl. Do I wear heels with shorts if I’m going somewhere special. Yup. And there’s not a damn thing wrong with it.

While this particular outfit might not be for you, that’s okay. The point is…

“Do not limit yourself, do not stifle who you are, just because you think that you have to follow some “rule” that is meant only to hold women back from confidently expressing who they are.”

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THE TIP

The easiest place to start rebelling (at least in my opinion) is through fashion. Wear what you want, when you want, how you want. Be brave, be bold; wear something that you’ve always wanted to, but some silly “rule” has always stopped you. You’ll be surprised at the freedom and confidence you’ll feel just by following through with that one little rebellion. And after that? Your options are endless…

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THE LINK UPS

Check out the weekly link ups I participate in for even more fashion and style ideas… BE SURE TO SCROLL DOWN AND LINK UP WITH MYSELF AND MY LOVELY CO-HOSTS FOR THIS MONTHS AGELESS STYLE LINK UP!!

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Kimono: Walmart (Similar);  Shorts: American Eagle (Similar);  Cami: Nordstrom;  Sandals: JCPenney (Similar)

Amy ~ Amy’s Creative Pursuits Blog, Facebook, Instagram, Google+, Pinterest

Bettye ~ Fashion Schlub Blog, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube

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Jennie ~ A Pocketful of Polka Dots Blog, Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter, Bloglovin

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Julia ~ When the Girls Rule Blog, Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram

Kellyann ~ This Blonde’s Shopping Bag Blog, Instagram, Bloglovin, Twitter

Shelly ~ The Queen in Between Blog, Instagram, Bloglovin, Pinterest, Facebook

Shugunna ~ Nzuri N* Simplicity Blog, Pinterest, Instagram

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Kat
Kat
4 years ago

I love your look! And your attitude!

Nancy
4 years ago

This is definitely a theme for you! I do follow rules! But rules that restrict our creativity??? No!

Lise
Lise
4 years ago

Your attitude is spot on! I have always been this way since I was a young girl and no regrets.

Kellyann Rohr
4 years ago

I agree with everything you said here Debbie! This is totally my style too and I love it – fashion rules are complete and total BS!

xo,

Kellyann

Amy Johnson
4 years ago

Wow! What an amazing post on rule breaking, I love your outfit, especially the kimono! I wore cut offs in my post today too!

mireille
4 years ago

Great tips for breaking rules! I definitely am a rule follower and am pretty tame with what I wear but I love the diversity of what people wear: just makes it so interesting and fun! For me, it boils down to what I am comfortable in!

http://www.chezmireillefashiontravelmom.com

Kimberly F. Malkiewicz
4 years ago

My husband has told me more than once, give me a rule and I’ll follow it. I *think*, for me, it stems from 1) wanting order, and 2) approval. I know for certain that I craved approval when I was growing up. As for breaking rules, by God’s grace, I have an extra measure of confidence that lets me break rules that seem to serve no (good) purpose.

jodie filogomo
jodie filogomo
4 years ago

Totally scandalous Debbie, as it should be!! LOL

I love how you describe breaking rules…for a reason and that’s exactly how it should be!

Funny how we both wore shorts!!

XOOX

Jodie

Bettye L Rainwater
4 years ago

I love how you thought more outside the box about rules and rule breaking and didn’t just confine it to “fashion rules.” But try as i might, when I look at the pictures of your outfit, I cannot see one broken rule – it just all looks joyous and unique and free and…like YOU!!

xoxo

Bettye

Shelbee on the Edge
4 years ago

I love this post and this outfit! And you know that I am a rule breaker through and through. I have always questioned rules, especially arbitrary rules. I think my first really big break through on challenging rules was in 10th grade when we headed off to our State Swimming competition. All the boys shaved their heads while all the girls simply put on their swim caps and did not reap the benefits of a shaved head. So I decided that was unfair and girls could shave their heads, too. So I did. And people were utterly appalled by my… Read more »

Omaye
4 years ago

Breaking rules for you top become your evolved self is important. I shows that you can make decisions baed on your own opinions and not that of others. It helps a lot with self improvement and self perception. It actually makes you fearless.

Love the post!

xxx

ooomaye.com

Joanne
4 years ago

I used to blindly follow all rules but as I’ve gotten older I have definitely started to question more and more of them… and even break a few.

Daenel T.
4 years ago

I’m definitely a rule breaker. I always have been. To this day, my mom’s reaction to anything I do is “That’s just Daenel.” LOL
 
And shredded denim is my jam. They’re comfortable and broken in and just yes.

jess jannenga
4 years ago

Love the outfit! I agree with you on ignoring those rules! I love jean shorts and camis too, and love the color of the cami with your kimono, just pretty colors! I like wearing a heel or espadrille with shorts too, these look great!
thanks for linking!
jess xx
http://www.elegantlydressedandstylish.com

Leslie Susan Clingan
4 years ago

Just wore a kimono with shorts for the first time this week. Loved it!! Following your good lead and that of Jodie and Kellyann. Now I want overall shorts. And this post has inspired to get them. At 62 I probably need to wear them now or never. Found a very affordable pair that could be made into cleaning rags if they don’t work out. Stay tuned.
 
Love the vibrant colors in this kimono and your camisole. Another thing I am uncomfortable wearing is heels or wedges with shorts. But need to get over myself. You gals are amazing inspiration.

Donna
4 years ago

Yep!! So many rules should be broken – I am grateful I was brought up to question, fight and disregard … fashion rules are the most ridiculous of all!! You always look amazing and you’ve got me looking forward to summer in a few months here in Australia so I can get back into my shorts!!
Wishing you a lovely week!
Donna 🧚🏻‍♀️❤️🐝
https://donnadoesdresses.com

INXSKY Minimalist Jewelry
4 years ago

Great post, totally agree with you!
Love your attitude, style and outfit!
 
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Last edited 4 years ago by INXSKY Minimalist Jewelry
Jacqui Berry
4 years ago

You look amazing Debbie, and I love the colours you have teamed together. Jacqui x

Lucy Bertoldi
4 years ago

Wow I just found you through Mumma be stylish! LOve this post so much!! Yes to breaking the rules and feeling rebellious without compromising what you value! Fashion is absolutely the way to do it!
I also noticed you have a link up- I’m gonna go link up and link it back to my post. You can also come link up with me over at my blog. I do a weekly Friday link up- would love to see you there! Thanks:)

Mica
4 years ago

What a fun kimono and I love the distressed shorts with it! 🙂 I think rules are defintely meant to be broken too and I’m always surprised when I read a blogger mentioning the rule that older people shouldn’t wear shorts – it’s certainly not a rule here, in the summer heat short shorts are the only option and I’ve never had a problem with older people wearing them – lots do here! 🙂
 
Thanks so much for joining the #WeekdayWearLinkup! The new link up is live on my blog now, I’d love you to join again. 🙂

Chrissy Rowden
4 years ago

Ahhh, another gorgeous outfit and I’m so glad more of us are feeling freer in fashion. As for the deep stuff, there are times to break the rules aren’t they? I’m trying to think of a time that I broke the rules for the good…oh my brain, I can’t at the moment. It will come to me at 4 am or something. lol That’s my brain for ya!

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