You know how sometimes you come across a quote and it really speaks to you…
THE STORY
…When I first saw this one it really resonated with me:
“Not everyone gets the same version of me. One person might tell you I’m an amazing beautiful soul. Another will say I’m cold-hearted. Believe them both, I act accordingly.”
The reason that I felt such a deep response to this particular group of words is quite simply, it’s true. It describes me to a T. There are people in my world who would quite literally go to the ends of the earth for me…then there are others who would probably rather prefer that I drop off the end of the earth.
I’ve discussed before how I don’t think that we should judge others, and that I do try really hard not to indulge in judgement. And I stand by those words. Here’s the rub though, it’s virtually impossible, at least for me, to not judge people based upon their behavior. And I don’t mean how someone behaves just once; everyone has a bad day now and again. I mean repeated behavior. Behavior that is a pattern, behavior that’s apparent every time that I am around them. To me, repeated behavior speaks to who you are not the type of day that you’re having.
If you show me time and again that you are cruel and unkind, or that you are interested in nothing but gossip and tearing others down or that you have no problem throwing shade at someone behind their back then guess what? I will act accordingly. If you play games with me and manipulate others in an attempt to get at me, then yes, I will be a cold-hearted bitch to you. A lot of things can be said about me, but one thing that cannot be said? That I’m phony. If you have proven to me that you are not a nice person then you can be damn sure that I’m not going to be nice to you. I have zero room in my life for that kind of negativity or those kinds of people.
I realize that some people subscribe to the “be kind to everyone no matter what” line of thinking. That’s fine if that’s who you are. People that are able to do that make the world a better place to be. But that’s just not who I am, and that’s fine too. I just don’t have it in me to be tolerant of black-hearted humans. The beauty of my lack of tolerance is that their opinions of me are utterly meaningless. After an interaction with one of these individuals when they run back to their minions and ruminate over what a bitch I am, I can rest easy in the knowledge that their anger towards me proves I am not one of them. And that’s the version of me that I want to be.
THE OUTFIT
I haven’t shared a super casual look lately so I figured this was a good one to choose. I last wore the blush print duster this Summer on a date night. Sadly it wasn’t available online then and it still isn’t. It’s from the Knox Rose line at Target so if you’re really loving it, dig through the racks at your local Target and hopefully you’ll find it there. I really love the colors; although it’s a light blush pink, it has a bunch of Fall colors like mustard, burgundy and gray in the print which makes it perfect for this time of the year.
I paired it with my rock n’ roll graphic tee that was also a Target score which luckily is available online so of course I linked it for you. After I wore it the day I took these shots I did cut the crew neck off…it was just a bit higher/tighter around the neck than I like. My favorite American Eagle distressed jeans were a no-brainer with the sort of rock and roll badass vibe of the outfit. I’m a huge fan of super distressed jeans, but I know that’s not necessarily for everyone and that’s okay. Differences in opinion and things that we love are what make us all unique…and unique is good. You could rock a similar look with mildly distressed jeans like these or even no distressing at all and still get the same bad girl vibe.
THE TIP
If you love a particular look, but feel that it’s not necessarily you take the “inspired by” approach. Integrate elements of the look that make you happy with pieces that are more you and that make you feel like your fabulous self.
THE LINKUPS
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Duster: Target (Similar); Tee: Target; Jeans: American Eagle; Boots: Soft Surroundings (Similar)
